By: Anshala Mathew

April, 2021

The world is a complicated place.

It has it’s way of playing snakes and ladders.

It wouldn’t play fair, it won’t accept defeat.

When we got ladders to climb, and snakes to bring us down, the world goes against the rules and swaps the two.

And all that’s left to the game is chaos and dilemma.

There are people who will hold the ladder upright for you, and then there will be people who will shorten the ladder as much as possible.

And there will be people who will use the snake to help you learn from mistakes during a downfall, and then there are those people who would assist you in climbing that snake again to make the same mistakes.

Think of the game of snakes and ladders as your existence. An existence is the state of living or continued survival. And to exist in this existence, you are required to live and be present in the reality under both adverse and favorable conditions.

Most of us, try to run away from reality, and that is part of human nature. We are present in the reality, but we are not living the reality.

Reality is made up of ladders and snakes. There will be people who will build you up, and just saying so, may bring up certain people in your head. These people are the ones you should cherish forever. In this big world, believe it or not, there will be only a few people who will be true to who you are, as a person. And as humans what we do, is push away the people closest to us, when they try to open our eyes to the right way of living, but instead we assume this to be an act of dominion or authority, where we are not heard and where we aren’t in a free space to live the way we want. This is just being insensitive and ignorant, because we tend to put ourselves above those who aid our triumph, just because we don’t understand the effort and strive, they take in lifting us up.

This is not existing, because, the rule in existing is to live and be present in this existence of yours, under varying conditions. But how are we ‘living’ when we aren’t playing the cards right. On the table at which the righteous sit at, is the table on which we are supposed to play our ‘cards of endurance’, and accept these people as your existence, because only with these people can you walk through the difficult paths or conditions of your existence without giving up. As much as you think that existing is easy on your own, it is not, because part of living, is facing the storms of life or flying among the clouds, and sometimes we can go our own way, but snakes and ladders is tricky, it requires a lot of thought and planning to reach the end. So, exist with the people who mean the most to you, don’t ‘disappear’ and express no sign of life to others by distancing or isolating yourself.

” Never miss out on a good person that can make your life great just because they’re a little difficult, the good ones never come easy”

-UNKNOWN

If you think it’s unfair that as humans, we are given an existence not only to prosper but to fall down, you are wrong.

Just imagine a world without challenges, without obstacles…people are not getting anywhere in their life because the failures and mistakes and hard work are what drives success. But, yet again, we try not to exist in this reality by turning a blind eye to the problems that surrounds us and instead we curl up in a ball of fear.

As I mentioned earlier, snakes are present to bring us down. There will be people who will do that as soon as you go an inch above their level. That’s only because they can’t stand to see you grow.

Therefore, people are going to bring you down, people are going to tear down your self-esteem and especially make you question your worth. But know you are enough! It is really cliché to say, but it’s the truth and people need to hear this on repeat because no matter how much confidence we build, humans will still find a way to break the wall of bricks that you build in front of you, and shame you.

Know that you are brought into existence, to exist, so don’t shy away from it by hiding all your life. Instead, live in the reality, take in the hatred, take in the opinions, take in the abomination of others, and crush them in your palms.

It’s not easy to do, although written on paper it seems so, but isn’t that our purpose? To grow as an individual and strengthen that wall more and more as we walk through life, adding one brick to the wall at a time.

There is a saying that says, “Life is too short to care about people who bring you down”, and these words just say it all because it agrees that haters are just small fish in a big ocean. Your existence, as well as mine, is shorter than we think, and when you spend your life caring about your haters, you aren’t giving yourself space to exist, because you aren’t trying to move forward and search for more ‘ladders’ in your life. The time’s ticking, so exist right now, exist tomorrow, and exist every day for the rest of your life. ❤💫

“The mystery of human existence, lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for”

-FYODOR DOSTOEVSKY

Keep smiling y’all-Anshala

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