A Safe Sense of Closure

By: Jemima Kotian

31st July 2021

The world we currently live in poses many obstacles. The pandemic for instance has been the biggest challenge yet, and for people around the globe – where our liberties of movement, socialising and even to breathe has been compromised. While some of us have taken to working towards the betterment of ourselves as we remain confined within our homes, this hasn’t been the easiest journey for others. In times like this, what do we look for when seeking closure? 

For centuries together, we’ve looked to different forms of expression to unwind. Be it music, literature, art, etc. These forms allow us to create our own safe space – somewhere we can be free and not have to be weighed under the harsh realities of this world. And this is why allowing oneself enough time to little guilty pleasures become fundamental.  

While some look to seeking this closure through drug abuse, alcoholism, and other detrimental forms of substantialized harm to both our physical and mental health, others ignore or push aside the idea of indulging in any of the aforementioned forms of art as fruitless to themselves. Thousands of people lose their life to drug abuse and alcoholism every year, and more become victims of other mental health conditions such as depression. Not having found your right “form of expression” can leave you feeling helpless and trapped – with no way to channel your thoughts, and emotions in the right manner.  

Think of it this way: do you ever feel a surge of emotions at certain times and not know where to release? Or you take to releasing it, but in a way that you know either harms you or the people around you, or even your surroundings? Think about it consciously. Experiencing intense emotions, particularly the negative kind, and not having a SAFE form of release could mean the possibilities of damage in the near future may be seamless.  

But if you have a form of expression you work on, and you take to releasing those emotions there: such as playing an instrument – a piece on the piano or the violin that expresses your anger or melancholy, or take to writing down what you feel raw on a piece of paper, no harm done. Infact you’d be harnessing your pent-up vehement energy and developing it into a skill. The benefits are limitless. 

A popular analogy I came across while writing this blog went something like this… 

“Reading poetry is like undressing before a bath. You don’t undress out of fear that your clothes will become wet. You undress because you want the water to touch you. You want to completely immerse yourself in the feeling of the water and to emerge anew.”

― Kamand Kojouri

What I came to understand is that, not only are these forms of art our solace, it has the power to heal on its own, while concurrently allowing you to experience the emotions you want to feel in the rawest manner and eventually help you move on from it. Or more simply, lose yourself in it just to find a better version of yourself emerging from it. 

Music by far is the most commonly chosen expression many rely on. It could very well be the best thing to exist on earth – our escape, our console, our closure – it takes any form you want it to take, perceive it the way you want to and it becomes that, allowing you to mould it to your liking. Music is simply incredible, and with its constant evolution, it’s becoming a reflection of us, it speaks to us in a secret language that could otherwise be difficult to articulate. Letting it just be your source of a “safe kinda high” could be a healing treatment to your mental health. Similarly, reading, writing, art and pretty much any other form of expression would give you the same comfort – depending on your preferences. Give it a chance, allow it to help channel your emotions the right and safe way, and watch it change your life if it already hasn’t.  

Ultimately, we possess the power to make ourselves feel a certain way, the moment it slips out of our hand, or the moment this power shifts…it could potentially destroy us. Seek solace within yourself, and let the other forms of expression be a way to outwardly portray it. And on that note, I leave you with a final quote… 

“If you cannot find peace within yourself, you will never find it anywhere else.”

– Marvin Gaye

Until next time – Jemima



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